
Her voice was soft, modulated by her three years at Cambridge, but never
clipped in the flat British manner. Listening to Amrita was like being stroked
by a firm but well-oiled palm.
Amrita had been seven years old when her father moved his engineering
firm from New Delhi to London. The memories of India that she had shared with
me supported the stereotype of a culture rampant with noise, confusion, and
caste discrimination. Nothing could have been more alien to Amrita's own
character; she was the physical essence of quiet dignity, she despised noise
and clutter of any sort, she was appalled by injustice, and her mind had been
disciplined by the well-ordered rhythms of linguistics and mathematics.
Amrita had once described her home in Delhi and the apartment in Bombay
where she and her sisters had spent summers with her uncle: bare walls
encrusted with grime and ancient handprints, open windows, rough sheets,
lizards scrabbling across the walls at night, the cluttered cheapness of
everything. Our home near Exeter was as clean and open as a Scandinavian
designer's dreams, all gleaming bare wood, comfortable modular seating,
immaculately white walls, and works of art illuminated by recessed lighting.
It had been Amrita's money that made both the house and our little art
collection possible: her "dowry," she jokingly used to call it. I had
protested at first. In 1969, the first year of our marriage, I declared an
annual income of $5,732. I had quit my teaching job at Wellesley College and
was writing and editing full-time. We lived in Boston, in an apartment where
even the rats had to walk stoop-shouldered. I didn't care. I was willing to
suffer indefinitely for my art. Amrita was not. She never argued; she agreed
with the principle behind my protests over the use of her trust fund; but in
1972 she made the down payment on the house and four acres and bought the
first of our nine paintings, a small oil sketch by Jamie Wyeth.
"She's asleep," said Amrita. "You can quit rocking."
I looked down and saw that she was right. Victoria was fast asleep,
mouth open, fists half-clenched. Her breath came soft and quick against my
neck. I continued rocking.
"Shall we take her in?" asked Amrita. "It's getting cool."
"In a minute," I said. My handspan was broader than the baby's back.
I was thirty-five when Victoria was born; Amrita was thirty-one. For
years I had told anyone who wanted to listen -- and a few who didn't -- all
about my feelings concerning the foolishness of bringing children into the
world. I spoke of overpopulation, of the unfairness of subjecting youngsters
to the horrors of the Twentieth Century, and the folly of people having
unwanted children. Again, Amrita never argued with me -- although with her
training in formal logic I suspect that she could have laid waste to all of my
arguments in two minutes -- but sometime in early 1976, about the time of our
state's primary, Amrita unilaterally went off the pill. It was on January 22,
1977, two days after Jimmy Carter walked back to the White House from his
Inauguration, that our daughter Victoria was born.
I never would have chosen the name "Victoria" but was secretly delighted
by it. Amrita first suggested it one hot day in July, and we treated it as a
joke. It seemed that one of her earliest memories was of arriving by train at
Victoria Station in Bombay. That huge edifice -- one of the remnants of the
British Raj, which evidently still defines India -- had always filled Amrita
with a sense of awe. Since that time, the name Victoria had evoked an echo of
beauty, elegance, and mystery in her. So at first we joked about naming the
baby Victoria, but by Christmas of 1976 we knew that no other name would fit
our child if it was a girl.
Before Victoria was born, I used to grumble about couples we knew who
had been lobotomized by the birth of their children. Perfectly intelligent
people with whom we'd enjoyed countless debates over politics, prose, the
death of the theater, or the decline of poetry now burbled at us about their
little boy's first tooth or spent hours sharing the engrossing details of
little Heather's first day at preschool. I swore that I would never fall prey
to that.