The episode has ignited another one of those debates that divides parents into vocal opposing
camps. Are Modern parents needlessly overprotective, or is the world a more complicated and
dangerous place than it was when previous generations were allowed to wander about
unsupervised?
From the “she’s an irresponsible mother” camp came: “Shame on you for being so careless
about his safety,” in Comments on the buffing ton post. And there was this from a mother of four:
“How would you have felt if he didn’t come home?” But Skenazy got a lot of support, too, with
women and men writing in with stories about how they were allowed to take trips all by them selves
at seven or eight. She also got heaps of praise for bucking the “helicopter parent” trend: “Good for
this Mom,” one commenter wrote on the buffing ton post. “This is a much-needed reality check.”
Last week, encouraged by all the attention, Skenazy started her own blog—Free Range, kids—
promoting the idea that modern children need some of the same independence that her generation
had. In the good old days nine-year-old baby boomers rode their bikes to school, walked to the
store, took buses—and even subways—all by themselves. Her blog, she says, is dedicated to
sensible parenting. “At Free Range Kids, we believe in safe kids. We believe in car seats and safety
belts. We do NOT believe that every time school-age children go outside, they need a security
guard.”
So why are some parents so nervous about letting their children out of their sight? Are cities
and towns less safe and kids more vulnerable to crimes like child kidnap and sexual abuse than they
were in previous generations?
Not exactly. New York City, for instance, is safer than it’s ever been; it’s ranked 36th in crime
among all American cities. Nationwide, stringer kidnaps are extremely rare; there’s a one-in-a-
million chance a child will be taken by a stranger, according to the Justice Department. And 90
percent of sexual abuse cases are committed by someone the child knows. Mortality rates from all
causes, including disease and accidents, for American children are lower now than they were 25
years’ ago. According to Child Trends, a nonprofit research group, between 1980 and 2003 death
rates dropped by 44 percent for children aged 5 to 14 and 32 percent for teens aged 15 to 19.
Then there’s the whole question of whether modern parents are more watchful and nervous
about safety than previous generations. Yes, some are. Part of the problem is that with wall to wall
Internet and cable news, every missing child case gets so much airtime that it’s not surprising even
normal parental anxiety can be amplified. And many middle-class parents have gotten used to
managing their children’s time and shuttling them to various enriching activities, so the idea of
letting them out on their own can seem like a risk. Back in 1972, when many of today’s parents
were kids, 87 percent of children who lived within a mile of school walked or biked every day. But
today, the Centers for Disease Control report that only 13 percent of children bike, walk or
otherwise t themselves to school.
The extra supervision is both a city and a suburb phenomenon. Parents are worried about
crime, and they are worried about kids getting caught in traffic in a city that’s not used to
pedestrians. On the other hand, there are still plenty of kids whose parents give them a lot of
independence, by choice or by necessity. The After School Alliance finds that more than 14 million
kids aged 5 to 17 are responsible for taking care of themselves after school. Only 6.5 million kids
participate in organized programs. “Many children who have working parents have to take the
subway or bus to get to school. Many do this by themselves because they have no other way to get